tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3637563600968316769.post8286106461037029462..comments2024-01-24T09:06:15.678+00:00Comments on A Drake's Progress: SecretDrakeygirlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04044143270148143924noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3637563600968316769.post-84697123650199971862012-04-10T10:54:58.370+01:002012-04-10T10:54:58.370+01:00wow, just wow.wow, just wow.badartdoghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15421300382694758409noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3637563600968316769.post-6001286590794769752012-04-10T10:47:38.980+01:002012-04-10T10:47:38.980+01:00This comment has been removed by the author.badartdoghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15421300382694758409noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3637563600968316769.post-39794040546365780942012-03-21T02:12:00.175+00:002012-03-21T02:12:00.175+00:00Right there alongside you. I've had those tho...Right there alongside you. I've had those thoughts often enough. Once upon a time I even relied on the now-outdated fact that their lives were relatively short. May God forgive me!Tui Chizownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11362569853162067460noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3637563600968316769.post-33994649271048528162012-02-07T12:57:44.603+00:002012-02-07T12:57:44.603+00:00Sophie, it's just as brave for you to write th...Sophie, it's just as brave for you to write that in your comment. You know how first hand how it feels to face what you think is an impossibly bleak future. And you also know how guilty you feel when you realise how wrong you were, and the future isn't like that <i>at all</i>. I know we're both happy in our imperfect worlds. We get stuff wrong. But we recognise that, and in fact that makes us better at being proper, normal, parents. It's just that this thought was <i>so</i> wrong that we're horrified we could think it. But we're only human. And as you've proved, we're not alone.<br />I felt <i>so</i> much better after saying it out loud. You've said it too, here, now. I hope it lifts a weight off your shoulders, too xDrakeygirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04044143270148143924noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3637563600968316769.post-3435787120335866182012-02-07T12:35:53.188+00:002012-02-07T12:35:53.188+00:00This is brilliant, you are so brave for standing u...This is brilliant, you are so brave for standing up there and saying it. You are not alone. In the hours after Eliza was born I actually hoped she wouldn't survive her heart surgery as I thought the future would be too hard for us all. But now I could kill myself for thinking that. The future is never as bad in reality as it is in your head. And if nothing else, as we both know, it's excellent blog-fodder! Must go and wipe my eyes now x Sophie/HazeyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3637563600968316769.post-86973393379452729942012-02-02T12:50:22.677+00:002012-02-02T12:50:22.677+00:00Finally got around to reading this Drakey, wonderf...Finally got around to reading this Drakey, wonderful stuff as always. Best, "Rosbif" xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3637563600968316769.post-79451638464059200342012-01-24T19:15:31.499+00:002012-01-24T19:15:31.499+00:00What have you done to me? I'm surreptitiously ...What have you done to me? I'm surreptitiously wiping tears away on a packed train. Thanks for publishing this - it's profoundly moving and rings so true.montynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3637563600968316769.post-86302676883767531712012-01-24T18:28:59.468+00:002012-01-24T18:28:59.468+00:00Bob's right - you really do need to stop makin...Bob's right - you really do need to stop making grown men cry. ;)Me...https://www.blogger.com/profile/09196700792511804755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3637563600968316769.post-40323436461228275172012-01-24T18:12:55.085+00:002012-01-24T18:12:55.085+00:00I'm so glad you published the whole thing. Wis...I'm so glad you published the whole thing. Wish I'd been there to see you deliver it. The talk, not the baby, obvs.Admannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3637563600968316769.post-82073484412501742942012-01-24T18:04:07.871+00:002012-01-24T18:04:07.871+00:00Amazing, Drakes. I was so annoyed at not being abl...Amazing, Drakes. I was so annoyed at not being able to come, but then nobody wants a six foot speccy galoot wailing like George Pig as part of their evening.<br /><br />Like Monsieur Slaphead says, above, the darker thoughts of parenting are something nobody wants to talk about, and you've had more reason than most for them. <br /><br />Josie's incredibly lucky. So's Little Monster Drakelet, too. So's Mr Drakeygirl, who is one of the nicest blokes I've ever had the privilege to share a pint and a few gaspers with. And so are you, and as I will never tire of telling you, I'm honoured to call you both mates. <br /><br />You're a wonderful family: the love and support you give each other radiates out of your blog like heat. But you've GOT TO STOP MAKING ME BLOODY CRY, you awful woman.Bobhttp://www.twitter.com/bobtheidiotnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3637563600968316769.post-12297118427333393162012-01-24T12:12:45.683+00:002012-01-24T12:12:45.683+00:00Thanks, Foxy. I'd just like to say I love you ...Thanks, Foxy. I'd just like to say I love you too. Bloody hell, your spelling is atrocious, though ;-)Drakeygirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04044143270148143924noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3637563600968316769.post-17320138823861961822012-01-24T11:33:29.866+00:002012-01-24T11:33:29.866+00:00Its Gaynor! You know how technical i am and anony...Its Gaynor! You know how technical i am and anonymous was all I recognised on the drop down thingy!<br /><br />Your amazing and I love you mate XX <br /><br />I remember the first time I met Joise. You let me bath her, dry her and try to do the nappy thing which you had to do in the end! You let me cuddle her, talk to her and sing to her all my pop tunes which I so know you love!! We chatted and laughed and you were bursting with pride. My best friend is an amazing Mum. <br /><br />Then it was lunch time and you said go up the road and get some fish and chips.<br /><br />When I got back you had set the table and Joise was in her moses basket. <br /><br />There was a pile of papers on the table and you said to me 'now you have meet my little girl just have a read of this' I remember thinking at the time just how brave you were. So brave you took my breath away.<br /><br />I will always remember that first and foremost you let me meet and fall in love with Josie. <br /><br />I am so pleased and happy that I am still part of Josies life and you are right she is a HAPPY little girl a joy to be with.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3637563600968316769.post-67749270203339508592012-01-21T13:43:58.576+00:002012-01-21T13:43:58.576+00:00Thanks, everyone. I really do appreciate your comm...Thanks, everyone. I really do appreciate your comments.Drakeygirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04044143270148143924noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3637563600968316769.post-43657583706403453632012-01-20T15:39:02.074+00:002012-01-20T15:39:02.074+00:00Just reading the transcript had me blubbing. Just ...Just reading the transcript had me blubbing. Just as well I wasn't in the room. Your writing is pitch perfect. Every time. J xJohn Meddhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10547777949324509522noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3637563600968316769.post-35665841669920257122012-01-20T15:34:10.463+00:002012-01-20T15:34:10.463+00:00Wonderfully put.Wonderfully put.RChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10020475949178203233noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3637563600968316769.post-37796660296379226992012-01-20T09:07:03.218+00:002012-01-20T09:07:03.218+00:00Wonderful and honest. Not many people would have t...Wonderful and honest. Not many people would have the courage to share that. You are a credit to Josie and she is lucky you have such a supportive and wonderful family.marmiteboyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06727386811098683743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3637563600968316769.post-4264814488782623462012-01-19T23:59:00.867+00:002012-01-19T23:59:00.867+00:00Whenever a friend has a baby, I make a point of te...Whenever a friend has a baby, I make a point of telling them the one thing I wish someone had told me when my first child was born (I've put this on the Word Blog before, if by chance you recognise it). We all know a new baby is lovely. Maybe it’s a weird thing to do, but I think it’s good to acknowledge the other side too, the bit you’re supposed to laugh off in the morning at work ("Oh, it was a bit rough, but it’s ok...") when actually you’re not always sure if you’re coping very well and dark thoughts occasionally circle like vultures. <br /><br />A couple of people have said something like, "Um, thanks. I think." The Internet equivalent of looking at you like you’ve said something appallingly transgressive. But a lot more have said, "Thank fuck it's not just us!"<br /><br />I’ve never had a moment like yours, but I recognise the truth of it and I am absolutely convinced that most parents who have will read it and say, "Oh, god, we did that too..."BaldySlapheadnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3637563600968316769.post-10714311783486007412012-01-19T23:29:49.711+00:002012-01-19T23:29:49.711+00:00Beautiful writing Carolyn. Josie is very lucky to ...Beautiful writing Carolyn. Josie is very lucky to have you as her Mum. xxxClare Adamnoreply@blogger.com